If there’s just one thing we can do to instantly heal our brokenness, that would make our lives so much easier. But alas! Healing a broken heart is not as easy as cooking an instant oatmeal or ramen. Healing, like any natural process, takes time.
I’ve had my fair share of heart aches in the past. Whether it involved a lover’s quarrel, family squabbles, or betrayal, heartbreaks are never easy. It can leave you scarred for the rest of your life. But just like anything else in this world, we can always choose to move forward and heal our brokenness.
Someone asked me, “Would you go mountaing climbing if you were broken-hearted?” Without hesitation, I answered,”Climbing mountains is one of the things that I love to do, whether I am broken hearted or not. But for broken-hearted people, I highly suggest mountain climbing because it is one of the most fulfilling things you can do in this life. Reaching the summit after seemingly endless hours of knee-bursting trek is one of the best feelings in the world. When climbing, you won’t remember all the pain inside your heart, because you are focused on reaching the top. It may not heal your broken-heart right away, but it’s enough to keep your heart beating once again.”
A few months ago, I had the chance to climb Mt. Lanaya in Alegria, Cebu. If this mountain was a man, I would say, he is probably the most drop-dead gorgeous man I have ever met. Oh the majestic view of the vast greenlands! My words will never be enough to describe its beauty.
Yet, at that moment, I was carrying a heavy cross in my shoulders. It was as if I was drowned by a sea of sadness. My heart was heavy and numb, but I did my best to hide everything. I was not going to spoil the beauty of the mountain because of my troubles.
So I climbed. And continued to climb. Because climbing mountains does wellness to your heart. It is a good cardio workout, one that does wonders to your body physically and mentally. Healing a broken heart is a tough journey which definitely takes time, but so does reaching the summit of a mountain. The important thing is to keep on going, keep on climbing, and after several hours, you’ll not notice, you have finally reached the top. Savor every painful feelings that you feel as of this moment, because once you reach your destination, all of them, will be replaced with a new one. Feel everything; that is an essential part of the whole healing process. That is why when I climb mountains, I do my best to be always mentally present; listening to the sound of birds singing and trees swaying, basking to the beauty of it all.
It took me a long time to write about my experience in Mt. Lanaya, because I was not well during that time. I was too demotivated to write about it. But looking back, seeing my pictures of this majestic mountain, made me realize that I am now healed from my broken heart. Because I can finally say that my journey to Mt. Lanaya was one of the best. The feeling is like seeing colors for the first time.
In the end, I learned that the secret is to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for feeling the negative emotions. You have allowed yourself to dwell on dark and treacherous emotions. Don’t stay there.
Forgive yourself. Climb a mountain. Keep that heart beating – once again.